When I started dating women I began to identify as lesbian, as it was most fitting — and best understood by community around me. Saying I was bisexual brought along too many misconceptions that I wasn’t able or willing to battle with. My sexual identity was interpreted as being less about love and more about sex.
My bisexuality doesn’t reflect how active my libido is, nor does it mean that I’m confused about my identity."
— I’m Going Back to Bi: Confessions of a Former Lesbian | Rebby Kern for the Advocate (via gaywrites)
Anonymous said: I am also bisexual, and I'm attracted to all genders. Therefore, the two or more genders works perfectly for me. It also works for someone who is attracted to men and women, or someone attracted to women or non binary people or any combination thereupon. This validates EVERYONE who identifies as bisexual, so I'm not sure what people have a problem with, exactly.
that’s how i feel about it
The worst part is that we know in our rational minds that it’s all bullshit, and yet we’re still plagued with self-loathing when we can’t live up to unattainable beauty standards. No matter how much self-acceptance we achieve, we can still look in the mirror and instantly catalog all the things about ourselves that we don’t think measure up. It’s maddening. It makes us feel like hypocrites even though it’s not our hypocrisy."
"beauty privilege" seems unnecessarily reductive like… lets try a convoluted intersection of both white supremacy and patriarchy that inform how we as a culture (as i assume this is referring to western/white standards) define "beauty"
so youd really have to break down the interlocking systems to first identify someone as ‘beautiful’ and THEN recognize the privileges they receive from that social identification
take myself for example [i am not a woman therefore am not affected by patriarchy in the same way, but just to demonstrate what i mean]
i am a male presenting, light-skinned, light-eyed, skinny, able bodied person. all of these things are given value at the behest of the kyriarchy and to the detriment of those who do not share these traits
i do not have ‘beauty privilege,’ i have access to both material and ideological structures that define my features as “beautiful” and allow me access where others are denied. again, white supremacy, and patriarchy
Esta entrada es una continuación de la que escribí hace unos días de ‘mi lucha conmigo misma‘. La he titulado así inspirada en la expresión ‘me la pela’ cuando quieres decir que algo te da absolutamente igual. No quería usar éste título al principio porque me cansan mucho estas expresiones que siempre van referidas a las pollas, y tampoco me gusta usar la versión ‘me lo pela’, versión referida…
Esta entrada es un experimento que he hecho sobre mis experiencias con las estructuras de poder. En ningún momento explico de qué estructuras se tratan ni de como actúan. No es un análisis, es una visibilización de mis emociones en ciertos momentos de mi vida. También quiero dejar claro que aunque aquí haya muchas emociones que me han hecho daño, mi intención no es mostrar que he tenido una vida…